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Thursday, February 20, 2014

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's Controversial Article Regarding Nigeria's Anti-Gay Law

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's Controversial Article Regarding Nigeria's Anti-Gay Law

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, according to Wikipedia, is a writer from Nigeria. She has been called "the most prominent" of a "procession of critically acclaimed young anglophone authors [that] is succeeding in attracting a new generation of readers to African literature".

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is also featured in Beyoncé's song "***Flawless" in her fifth studio album, a self-titled album, "Beyoncé".

My Comment:

Well, I don't think this is just. I, myself, is gay. And I am proud of it. Being gay is not a crime as long as we are not hurting anybody and/or committing crimes itself. There are a lot of innocent people who are gay. Condemning them, though innocent, because of their sexual orientation? How does that make you just? Homosexuality is not an illness. Homosexuality is not a crime. How can a person control himself from being gay? Yes. It can be possible. By forcing yourself to hide inside a closet. You can act like a straight-guy. You can. But who are you fooling? Not just everyone around you but yourself. Why would you condemn a person who is a homosexual? Is it because you loathe gay people? Because you had a bad experience with gay people? Or is it because you are jealous that those gay people can be who they want to be and you cannot because you are ashamed to do so and because you were raised not to be though deep in your heart you always wanted to be free? Gay people are stronger than those who bullied them. You were only able to do whatever you want to do with homosexuals because you have the power to do so. I still believe in the word "Karma". Maybe not today but wait you shall get it. If you do worse, you'll receive the worst.

Pope Francis was also said to be the "Man-of-the-Year For Gay People". This started when he said, "When I meet a gay person, I have to distinguish between their being gay and being part of a lobby. If they accept the Lord and have goodwill, who am I to judge them? They shouldn’t be marginalized. The tendency [to homosexuality] is not the problem…they’re our brothers." and he even said to educational leaders, "How can we proclaim Christ to a generation that is changing?" If the leader of the church is not against homosexuality, then why does some leaders of other countries are condemning gay people? And they said it is because the bible said so? As what Chimamanda said in her article (which you can rad below), "The Bible can be a basis for how we choose to live our personal lives, but it cannot be a basis for the laws we pass," Then why make it a law? You will not be the best leader, you will be the worst.

Phew! I am really agitated about this. Now here's the article by Chimamanda.

"Why Can’t He Just Be Like Everyone Else?"

I will call him Sochukwuma. A thin, smiling boy who liked to play with us girls at the university primary school in Nsukka. We were young. We knew he was different, we said, ‘he’s not like the other boys.’ But his was a benign and unquestioned difference; it was simply what it was. We did not have a name for him. We did not know the word ‘gay.’ He was Sochukwuma and he was friendly and he played oga so well that his side always won.

In secondary school, some boys in his class tried to throw Sochukwuma off a second floor balcony. They were strapping teenagers who had learned to notice, and fear, difference. They had a name for him. Homo. They mocked him because his hips swayed when he walked and his hands fluttered when he spoke. He brushed away their taunts, silently, sometimes grinning an uncomfortable grin. He must have wished that he could be what they wanted him to be. I imagine now how helplessly lonely he must have felt. The boys often asked, “Why can’t he just be like everyone else?”

Possible answers to that question include ‘because he is abnormal,’ ‘because he is a sinner, ‘because he chose the lifestyle.’ But the truest answer is ‘We don’t know.’ There is humility and humanity in accepting that there are things we simply don’t know. At the age of 8, Sochukwuma was obviously different.  It was not about sex, because it could not possibly have been – his hormones were of course not yet fully formed – but it was an awareness of himself, and other children’s awareness of him, as different. He could not have ‘chosen the lifestyle’ because he was too young to do so. And why would he – or anybody – choose to be homosexual in a world that makes life so difficult for homosexuals?

The new law that criminalizes homosexuality is popular among Nigerians. But it shows a failure of our democracy, because the mark of a true democracy is not in the rule of its majority but in the protection of its minority – otherwise mob justice would be considered democratic. The law is also unconstitutional, ambiguous, and a strange priority in a country with so many real problems. Above all else, however, it is unjust. Even if this was not a country of abysmal electricity supply where university graduates are barely literate and people die of easily-treatable causes and Boko Haram commits casual mass murders, this law would still be unjust.  We cannot be a just society unless we are able to accommodate benign difference, accept benign difference, live and let live. We may not understand homosexuality, we may find it personally abhorrent but our response cannot be to criminalize it.

A crime is a crime for a reason. A crime has victims. A crime harms society. On what basis is homosexuality a crime? Adults do no harm to society in how they love and whom they love. This is a law that will not prevent crime, but will, instead, lead to crimes of violence: there are already, in different parts of Nigeria, attacks on people ‘suspected’ of being gay. Ours is a society where men are openly affectionate with one another. Men hold hands. Men hug each other. Shall we now arrest friends who share a hotel room, or who walk side by side? How do we determine the clunky expressions in the law – ‘mutually beneficial,’ ‘directly or indirectly?’

Many Nigerians support the law because they believe the Bible condemns homosexuality. The Bible can be a basis for how we choose to live our personal lives, but it cannot be a basis for the laws we pass, not only because the holy books of different religions do not have equal significance for all Nigerians but also because the holy books are read differently by different people. The Bible, for example, also condemns fornication and adultery and divorce, but they are not crimes.

For supporters of the law, there seems to be something about homosexuality that sets it apart. A sense that it is not ‘normal.’ If we are part of a majority group, we tend to think others in minority groups are abnormal, not because they have done anything wrong, but because we have defined normal to be what we are and since they are not like us, then they are abnormal. Supporters of the law want a certain semblance of human homogeneity. But we cannot legislate into existence a world that does not exist: the truth of our human condition is that we are a diverse, multi-faceted species. The measure of our humanity lies, in part, in how we think of those different from us. We cannot – should not – have empathy only for people who are like us.

Some supporters of the law have asked – what is next, a marriage between a man and a dog?’ Or ‘have you seen animals being gay?’ (Actually, studies show that there is homosexual behavior in many species of animals.) But, quite simply, people are not dogs, and to accept the premise – that a homosexual is comparable to an animal – is inhumane. We cannot reduce the humanity of our fellow men and women because of how and who they love. Some animals eat their own kind, others desert their young. Shall we follow those examples, too?

Other supporters suggest that gay men sexually abuse little boys. But pedophilia and homosexuality are two very different things. There are men who abuse little girls, and women who abuse little boys, and we do not presume that they do it because they are heterosexuals. Child molestation is an ugly crime that is committed by both straight and gay adults (this is why it is a crime: children, by virtue of being non-adults, require protection and are unable to give sexual consent).

There has also been some nationalist posturing among supporters of the law. Homosexuality is ‘unafrican,’ they say, and we will not become like the west. The west is not exactly a homosexual haven; acts of discrimination against homosexuals are not uncommon in the US and Europe. But it is the idea of ‘unafricanness’ that is truly insidious. Sochukwuma was born of Igbo parents and had Igbo grandparents and Igbo great-grandparents. He was born a person who would romantically love other men. Many Nigerians know somebody like him. The boy who behaved like a girl. The girl who behaved like a boy. The effeminate man. The unusual woman. These were people we knew, people like us, born and raised on African soil. How then are they ‘unafrican?’

If anything, it is the passage of the law itself that is ‘unafrican.’ It goes against the values of tolerance and ‘live and let live’ that are part of many African cultures. (In 1970s Igboland, Area Scatter was a popular musician, a man who dressed like a woman, wore makeup, plaited his hair. We don’t know if he was gay – I think he was – but if he performed today, he could conceivably be sentenced to fourteen years in prison. For being who he is.) And it is informed not by a home-grown debate but by a cynically borrowed one: we turned on CNN and heard western countries debating ‘same sex marriage’ and we decided that we, too, would pass a law banning same sex marriage. Where, in Nigeria, whose constitution defines marriage as being between a man and a woman, has any homosexual asked for same-sex marriage?

This is an unjust law. It should be repealed. Throughout history, many inhumane laws have been passed, and have subsequently been repealed. Barack Obama, for example, would not be here today had his parents obeyed American laws that criminalized marriage between blacks and whites.

An acquaintance recently asked me, ‘if you support gays, how would you have been born?’ Of course, there were gay Nigerians when I was conceived. Gay people have existed as long as humans have existed. They have always been a small percentage of the human population. We don’t know why. What matters is this: Sochukwuma is a Nigerian and his existence is not a crime.


Thursday, February 13, 2014

My Top 10 Picks: Beauty Trends

 Top 10 Picks: Beauty Trends

Alright. Alright. Clothes? Done. Beauty? Here it is. 

Berry-Colored Lipstick

"Well... Well..." Just like how Angelina Jolie said it on her new role as "Maleficent". Her Berry-Colored Lips is #Trending! 

 White Shadows and Liners 

Simple and light colored shadows and liners are also in this year. Bright White liners and shadows can give you a more natural and fresh look.

   Black Nail Polish with Silver Streaks   

Black polish can make your hands look a little bit whiter. Nail Art is still active. Putting simple streaks of silver can make your hands look more elegant and exquisite.

Ecaille Hair Style

One color, two shades. Nice! Two shades of brown in an ombre way. Rihanna, Kim Kardashian, Sarah Jessica Parker & Jessica Alba are just a few of famous people who got this latest hair style.

#TheQueen 's Crown of Braids

Just for your information... I recently called myself #TheQueen. Hahahahaha. LOL! Well... I like braids and Braids will be shining bright like diamonds again this year since it's one of the top trends! Who doesn't want to wear a crown right? The new crown for the new and modern world! Put some flowers on it or flower bands since it's also trending.


Yes! Bronzer! Aside from it's effect on your face that makes you look thinner, you could also look fab this summer for it's sunkissed-tan effect on your cheeks. You will not be left behind for the look this summer PLUS! the thought that it's one of the trends this year? Why not? Looking fab is looking perfect.

Pastel-Colored Shadows

I'm not talking about your own gray-shaded shadow, that never left you since you were born, be colored with pastel colors okay? Hahaha. I'm talking about eyeshadows. Pastel washed eyeshadows are so trending, too. Any shades of blue, and some said pastel green too, will look you more neat and daring that ever. Who said only smoky eyes can make you look more seductive? Well, if you know how to put pastel-colored shadows perfectly in your eyes, you won't be left behind.

The Sphinx & The Tiger

Why would settle for the term "Cat Eyes" or "Egyptian Style Eyes" if we can use another term? Hahaha. Tiger is more F.I.E.R.C.E. than a cat. The Sphynx is way larger than Cleopatra. So we need to make sure that this year we're fiercer than ever and way larger and creative than anybody else around us.

Going Back to the Natural Way

Well you look at those 3. Less makeup. Just Lipstick. Most of the designers' models who ramped the Spring/Summer 2014 Fashion Weeks wearing nothing on their faces but just a lipstick... (You'll know what color later since it's my top pick!) Just putting some moisturizers and lipstick gives you a boom effect. Simple yet very elegant! All we need to do right now is use some products to keep our faces clean and blemish free. Just like what was said in a Filipino commercial, "Gandang natural, walang halong kemikal." In English, "Natural beauty, chemical free." Stay healthy and you'll look fine. Just put on some lipstick and your beauty will just come out from nowhere.

Goodbye Pink. Hello ORANGE.

Yes! You read it right. ORANGE! Electric Orange lips can suit your every mood. If you would want to look sexy, Orange does it. If you wanna look sweet, Orange does it. If you wanna look daring, Orange does it. Whatever mood you have, Orange is what you need. Not the citrus fruit, okay? But the lipstick. The color goes with your facial expressions. Matte or Glossy? It doesn't matter. The color just goes with the flow. Go for it.

Check out the last image... Look at Jessica Alba.

  • Ecaille Hair - CHECK!
  • Bronzer - CHECK!
  • Natural Look - CHECK!
  • Orange Lipstick - CHECK!

Okay Jessica Alba... My crown is yours now. You're now the new #TheQueen. Hope you're happy 'bout that. Hahaha. You better get all of those trends in one and I'll give you a better  - CHECK!


(Let me thank GOOGLE for all the pics I found and to whoever the owners are.)

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Alexander McQueen: The Man of Exquisite Couture

Alexander McQueen:
The Man of Exquisite Couture

Alexander McQueen is one of my inspirations in life. His unique designs made me draw/design gowns the "McQueen Style". Today, I'm gonna give him my time and I'm writing this post for him...

I will never forget the "Savage Beauty" exhibit way back 2011 held at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York City, New York. Well, I wasn't able to go there but thanks to Metropolitan Museum's site I was able to see the Haute Couture clothing created by this British fashion designer Alexander McQueen.

Before we continue though, Who is Alexander McQueen?

Lee Alexander McQueen or simply "Lee", as how his friends call him,  was born on March 17, 1969 in Lewisham, London. Youngest son among the six. He actually started making dresses for his three sisters at a very young age. Starting 1985, at age 16, he served as an apprentice with the Savile Row tailors Anderson & Sheppard, Gieves & Hawkes, and later with Angels and Bermans (Theatrical Costumiers). Because of his apprenticeship in Savile Row, it helped him earn a reputation as an expert in creating a flawless tailored look. During his stay there in Savile Row, he had famous and well-known clients like Mikhail Gorbachev (Former President of the Soviet Union) & Prince Charles of Wales (Husband of late Princess Diana). At age 20, he worked with Koji Tatsuno before travelling to Milan, Italy and started working for Romeo Gigli (Italian Fashion Designer) and his works are described by Los Angeles Times as "soft look, body-hugging dresses with draped bubble skirts".

In 1884, he returned to London and applied as a pattern cutter tutor in Central Saint Martins College of Art and Design but his portfolio appeared powerful and was persuaded by the Head of the Masters course, Bobby Hillson, to enroll in the course as a student. He had his masters degree and his whole graduation collection (Jack the Ripper Stalked His Victims) was bought by an influential fashion stylist, Isabella Blow (She is also the one who persuaded him to use his middle name, Alexander, in his fashion career.)

He opened his store Alexander McQueen in 1992. In July 27, 2006, lauched a low-priced fashion line McQ.

In 1996, he was appointed as Givenchy's head designer. He had a lot of controversies during his stay with Givenchy like calling the founder "irrelevant"; his first unsuccessful couture collection with Givenchy which he then told Vogue in 1997 a "crap"; included a double amputee model Aimee mullins walking the runway with an intricately carved wooden legs in autumn of 1998; during one of his most famous runway show previewing Spring/Summer 1999, model Shalom Harlow walked the runway then being rotated slowly in a revolving section of the walk being sprayed with paint on her white strapless gown by two robotic spray guns; his contract with Givenchy ended March 2001 which he also said the contract was "constraining his creativity".

In 2000, Gucci bought 51% of his company.

He was openly gay and also stated, "I was sure of myself and my sexuality and I've got nothing to hide. I went straight from my mother's womb onto the gay parade". He was married in the summer of 2000 with George Forsyth (A documentary filmmaker) on a yacht in Ibiza but it was not official due to same-sex marriage was not legal in Spain during that time. Their relationship ended after a year but remained as close friends.

He was announced as dead on the afternoon of February 11, 2010. His housekeeper found him hanging on his home that morning. He died days before the London Fashion Week (which he was not featured to appear to) and nine days after his mother died because of cancer. His friend, David LaChapelle (American commercial photographer, fine-art photographer, music video director, film director, and artist), said that he "was doing a lot of drugs and was very unhappy". He left a note stating, "Look after my dogs, sorry, I love you, Lee." but was not confirmed by the Metropolitan Police as suicide not until April 28, 2010. It was said that he overdosed himself with cocaine, sleeping pills and tranquilizers; slashed his wrists with a ceremonial dagger and a meat clever prior to hanging himself with which was said to be his "favourite brown belt". His funeral was held at St. Paul's Cathedral on February 25, 2010 and his ashes were scattered on the Isle of Skye.His memorial was held at the same church on September 20, 2010 and was attended by famous people like Björk, Kate Moss, Sarah Jessica Parker, Daphne Guinness, Naomi Campbell, Pam Hogg, Stella McCartney and Anna Wintour and 2,500 other invited guests. 


Kate Moss

Sarah Jessica Parker 

Daphne Guinness

Naomi Campbell

Pam Hogg

Stella McCartney

Anna Wintour

Well-known artists such as Lady Gaga, who was also his close friend, paid tribute to him. Lady Gaga offered a song for him during 2010 Brit Awards, an acoustic-jazz rendition of "Telephone" and "Dance in the Dark" and even composed a song for him on Gaga's third studio album, "Born This Way", titled "Fashion of His Love".

Alexander McQueen's long-term assistant and best friend Sarah Burton took over his position as the new creative director oh his business.

(Click here to proceed to my page featuring Alexander McQueen's collection in "Savage Beauty")